Command Respect II

In every social interaction, certain people are respected, admired, and generally thought of as the correct model for emulation.

Are you that person?

Do people listen when you talk?

Do people feel your presence when you’re in a room?

When talking with a person one-on-one do you often feel like they look down on you?

Well, whether you answered 'yes' or 'no' to these questions (your answers will most likely be uniform as you can see a pattern there) does not matter.

The problem of feeling less respected can easily be solved. It’s not a very complicated one, but it does require some specific details. You can't bulldoze your way to it.

WANTING TO BE RESPECTABLE IS NOT THE SAME AS SEEKING APPROVAL

Don’t conflate wanting to be respectable with approval-seeking behavior. These are opposites.

A man who prides himself in being respectable is DISAGREEABLE when it matters.

Approval-seeking behavior AGREES.

A man who prides himself in being respectable will not tolerate certain things.

Approval-seeking behavior is EXTREMELY TOLERANT.

The more you care about being respected, the less you care about being liked.

The more you care about being approved, the more you care about being liked.

The best part is fixing the problem only requires action on your part, and nobody else's.

You do not need to get people to improve their behavior. By making a few adjustments on your part, the world will respond accordingly.

How people treat you is often a reflection of how you carry yourself, and how you demand to be treated (not verbally, of course).

If you wear rags, don’t expect to be treated like a King.

If you behave like a peasant, don’t expect to be treated like royalty.

Get it?

By adjusting how you interact with the world, you force the world to adjust to your universe.

Steve Jobs was a master at this. It is said that when he was with you, all you could think about was him. Jobs, as has been recounted many times, could engulf you in his universe.

This is the sort of power I want to pass on to you.

It doesn’t take much to gain respect, all other prerequisites in check.

“But I’m rich…”

What about when you meet people who are also rich, or even richer? What then? Do you become the peon?

Money is good for impressing peasants, not so much for the elite.

Wealth will gain you the respect of those who do not possess it. But to be a highly respectable person regardless of who you encounter, there’s a little more you need to know.

I’m sure you can think of at least 5 rich people for whom you have zero respect, and not even because of their arrogance, as most people complain, but just by the way they conduct themselves.

You’re most likely to say to yourself “This person does not deserve my respect,” and that’s it.

Nothing more, nothing less.

But why? What would make you come to such a conclusion?

Is it the way they walk?

Perhaps it’s the way they talk?

Perhaps you think they are weak?

Perhaps you subconsciously compare them with other wealthy individuals?

Whatever your reason is, there is an explanation behind why humans respect certain individuals and have zero for others.

Respectability and likability are two different things.

A person could dislike you and yet have immense respect for you.

We choose who to like, but we don't choose who to respect.

Learn to Command Respect today [sketchy illustrations included].